We are all works in progress.
I can honestly tell you my heart and mind are at a constant state of war, they are fighting over who I am and who I want to be. I like this girl but I also don’t really know what I want right now, like I want to be with her but I don’t know if I have the time or the know how to keep that flame afire. Its also hard for me to talk to people and she’s the only person I want to be with and I want to get to know her but I’m afraid that when she sees who I really am that she won’t want to see anymore. But I still try and I am still learning and growing and fighting with every fiber of my being to be more and to be the best person I can be.
Consistency comes with effort and comfort. Give it time, maybe somethings there, maybe there isn’t. Just remember to never stop fighting for yourself and for what you want. A person’s character is how they react when they stumble and it becomes hard to keep fighting. I can honestly tell you I stumble and set myself back all the time, but I still get back up and fight because I want more than consistency I want passion and fire.
Well you are just not used to being single.
Take yourself out to dinner, go out and watch the movie you want to watch, go to a club, go spend a day at the library. Find things you like to do and just do them. Your life is entirely your own now, do everything and anything your heart desires.
I get a lot of questions about social anxiety, shyness, and introversion and honestly those are the hardest questions for me to answer because I struggle with them too.
I really do wish I can help you but I can’t. I recently downloaded a FREE app called SAM or Self-help for Anxiety Management. It has a social section where you post up what makes you anxious. I posted there just to vent what I was feeling and never expected anyone to reply back. Then hours later someone did and with some of the best advice I ever got.
There is a lot more to the app then just that, like advice sections and calming techniques so I highly recommend giving it a shot.
You can make a giant billboard that says “Stop giving me mixed signals.”
No but really just ask him what he wants. Maybe he isn’t sure what he wants either and asking him will make him think about it.
As a guy, I can tell you sometimes we don’t think. Sometimes we say things we don’t mean or don’t say things we do mean. We don’t always know what we want and what we need and sometimes we are just stupid.